I know it's a little early to be talking about Black Friday/Cyber Monday, but I wanted you guys to be able to start your planning now. Let's face it, for many of us, the smartest way to shop is to already know what you want, set the money aside/start saving & plan accordingly on when is the best time to make the purchase. It's especially important to start early because  Black Friday is expected to look completely different this year due to COVID-19. Many retailers aren't even planning to open their doors for this coveted event due to it being next to impossible to social distance. So, majority of the deals will likely just be online. Either way, my years of learning how to best shop for all the deals without feeling all the guilt are still key.

The single most important factor for me has been to PLAN.  I am such a planner. I love to write things down, keep to do lists, write out my monthly budget, etc. I purchased my first home recently, so as you can imagine, I’ll have a pretty big list this time around. What I like to do is think of each area in my home, and the things I would like to purchase for it. Then I write out the things that either myself or the kids are wanting. Once I have this list, I begin to look up the current price in order to kind of gauge what it may be once the Black Friday/Cyber Monday deals start rolling in. Once I have an idea of what everything is going to cost, I can start to prioritize them into wants vs needs and give them a mental ranking so I know exactly how important it is for me to be able to purchase that thing. Lastly, I budget accordingly. So instead of putting an extra payment on a bill, I may use that for my shopping. Or I will even decrease the amount of cash I withdraw for my envelopes in order to have some extra for shopping also.

Here’s an example of the list that I like to make (If you’d like a free downloadable pdf copy click on the black_friday_worksheet below.) For my room, I’ve been wanting either a headboard or a canopy bed (Still can't decide...). The one I'd like to get is pictured below. Taking a screenshot before Nov., gives me an idea of how much I can maybe expect to pay. The website currently offers 15% off when signing up for marketing and promotional materials, so I would imagine that their black Friday sale would be at least 25-40% off. In doing the math, I’d hope to be able to purchase this bed for $824.25-$659.40. I then repeat this step for all of the other items on my list. Depending on your list, it can be a bit time-consuming, but if you take it a day at a time, I promise it's worth it and makes your shopping experience less stressful. 
​ I hope this helps you guys to plan your shopping. I'll have some special deals for MML that I'm super excited to share. Imagine a new deal for each day of the week leading into Black Friday/Cyber Monday. If you haven't already, be sure to sign up for our emails so that you're the first to know about them!
XoXo,
Tierra

​21 Days.... That’s all we have left of summer. I must admit that although I love summer, I’m super ready for fall mainly because the weather tends to be just right majority of the time. You know that 70s – not too hot, not too cold weather. Plus with fall, I can enjoy my favorite “fall” things like fall fashion, fall scents, & fall food. I love when I’m able to bring out my sweaters, hoodies, & boots. Something about that oversized sweater that just makes me feel so cozy & comfortable. And because the weather is perfect, I can pair that with everything – shorts, leggings, jeans, skirts, etc. My favorite is  the hoodie, with the skinny ripped jeans, & a pair of heels look – this look is so versatile & literally looks good on everyone. If you’re looking for some inspo, Pinterest & Instagram are my gotos. On Pinterest, I search for Fall Looks for Women (or Fall Looks for men), Fall looks for 2020, & Fall fashion trends. For IG, I use #falllooks #falltrends & #fallfashion. You’re sure to find a look to fall in love with  when using these. After you’ve got yourself looking good in your fall wear, you can focus on your home. Given this blog is based on a candle business platform, you know fall scents has to be my all-time favorite. I love a good pumpkin, chai, apples & cinnamon smell. These are literally the epitome of fall. The other day I went into Target, and immediately saw these scents on display for the plug ins and air freshners. There’s just something about that fall spice smell to immediately make you happy about the change in season. It’s hard to describe in words, but I hope you guys can get what I’m saying. I bet many of you were able to catch a whiff of your favorite scents just now. And good news, if you couldn’t imagine it or if you’ve been procrastinating on filling your home with fall scents, MilanMonet Luxe has you covered.  We have 2 new fall scents – Rich Harvest & Rich Bourbon that are available now. Both are strong & won’t disappoint – just click on the Shop tab in the menu bar to explore. Finally, I want to share with you guys my next fall favorite. It’s actually a two in one deal. Fall food not only tastes good, but it smells good too. So, if you don’t have any candles just yet, cooking up some of my favorite fall foods is sure to smell up your home for a bit. My favorite fall food is homemade pumpkin muffins. I’ll have to admit, I didn’t actually start to like pumpkin until last year after I tried Starbucks cream cheese filled pumpkin muffin and fell in love. After weekly purchases, my upset budget led me to go to Pinterest & search for pumpkin recipes. The kids & I made some one day & I just couldn’t get enough. We literally couldn’t stop eating them. I don’t even think they lasted more than a maybe a day or two. Unfortunately I never saved that recipe, so I’ll be on the hunt for another good one now that fall is almost here. But hey, if you have one, please share in the comments. I hope you guys have a rich fall & can enjoy some of these faves & more!
 
XoXo
Tierra

Whew time is really flying. I can’t believe that the last time I wrote on this topic was 5 months ago. I have learned soooo much and feel like I continue to learn each day. The good news is, I’m not ready to give up yet. They say 20% of new businesses fail within the first year. So to know I’m 4 months away from being in business a year, and still not wanting to quit, is pretty good. Some new lessons I’ve learned are to make wiser purchasing decisions. There were a couple things that I purchased and either ended up not liking it or regretting it because I’d spent more than what I should have. When running a business, you really have to be strategic with how you budget the funds – especially when you’re like mine and still working to break even. I am working on following a better system to help stretch the funds so that on the slower sales months, I can still make the basic necessity purchases (i.e. the website subscription, more fragrance oil, etc.) The next major lesson I’ve learned is that it’s okay to research the competition, but don’t dwell on the competition. I take notes on what seems to be going well or pain points that others may have and that’s it. I try not to get wrapped up in the fact that they have more customers, more of a social media presence, and things of that nature. Finally, I learned to take advantage of the slow times. When sales aren’t where I’d like them to be, I’m using that time to either rest, research new scents, or increase my inventory for when the sales do pick up. This is extremely important because you just never know when things can turn around. Take today for example. I hadn’t made a sale in 20 days, but then I get featured in D Magazine’s ‘18 Dallas Candle Companies Share Their Bestselling Scents’, and boom, I got more sales. This was a huge eye opener for me. I knew it was coming, but I was still holding my breath. I will say, it’s nice when your hard work starts to pay off. For me, this is only the beginning. I can proudly say most of my time has been spent releasing new scents. Since March, I’ve launched the Calm, Cool, & Collected collection, On Vacay, No Bounds, & the Everyday Luxury line. Outside of reading that article, part of what keeps me going is receiving all of the customer photos. Being able to see our candles in someone else’s home brings about a feeling like no other. I also love when I get to see how much our candles are used for self-care. It wasn’t until I started this business that I began shifting my thinking of candles. I used to think they were just a luxury, but when you begin to use them for self-care which allows you to take care of your mind, body, and soul in order to reset – that’s not JUST a luxury – that’s a need being met.  All in all, I’m thankful and truly blessed that God is allowing me to maneuver and steward over this business. I hope to continue to make you guys proud. Thank you for all the love & support. 
 
Best,
Tierra

In an effort to increase our sustainability and ensure we’re leaving the world better than before, we’ve learned to repurpose our candle jars. The beauty of our candles, is that they make beautiful décor pieces on their own. They go perfectly in the bathroom, the living room coffee table, or on the nightstand. So, we’ve put together the steps as well as some inspo for you to get creative with how you will repurpose your vessels. 
 
If you're wondering when is the right time to repurpose, we'd recommend once you have approximately ¼ of solid wax left in your candle vessel. When you reach this pint, you can begin the process of cleaning your vessel. There are several methods to doing this, but the one that we use the most involves utilizing your freezer. The supplies you’ll need are your freezer, a butter knife or spoon, dish soap, and a sponge. 
 
Step 1:
Place the vessel in the freezer for 2-3 hours. Once the wax has frozen, it will either pop out naturally or can easily be broken apart using the butter knife or spoon. Be careful not to scrape the jar because this can cause metal streaks to appear in the glass, and I haven’t quite figured out how to remove them just yet.
 
Step 2:
Once all of the wax is gone, you will want to clean it out with warm soapy water. I usually let my candle vessel sit with the soapy water for 10-15minutes. This helps me to be able to easily remove the wick
 
Step 3: Remove the wick. 
 
Step 4: 
From there, you’ll want to use the sponge to wash the vessel out, removing any excess wax.
 
Step 5:
Allow the vessel to air dry or use a non-abrasive towel to hand dry it.
 
Now that your vessel is clean, you’re ready to repurpose it to your liking. I’ve used mine as a statement piece on my coffee table, a cotton ball holder on my bathroom sink, and as a way to collect loose change. You can try these out as well, or you can also use the vessel as a candy  dish or as a planter for a cute succulent. 
 
I look forward to seeing how you guys repurpose your candle vessels!

​Being able to go to the spa has been something that no one has been able to do for
M O N T H S.....So, with spas being closed, the next best thing is to look towards your bathroom. Your bathroom is literally the ultimate potential spa destination while you're at home. I love it because there’s so much you can do to make it your sanctuary whenever you want to really relax and feel as though you’re at the spa. If you’re like me, and love to find peace without having to leave your home, checkout these tips for creating a spa atmosphere. 

• Add some texture to your sink. To achieve this I recommend adding rocks, stone, marbles, or the like to your sink. This is not only pretty to look at, but it also helps to filter out germs as you run the water. For my sink, I chose these stones from Dollar Tree here . They were only a dollar, and were the perfect thing to add to give my bathroom a spa feel.
• Add a soft, comfortable rug. Adding a rug will help your bathroom look cute, and also help your feet to feel as though they’re walking on clouds. I choose this rug from Ikea here. It was only $8, and well worth the purchase. I loved it because it was white, which gave off the clean look, and it felt so amazing between my toes. You can find similar here, and I’ve also seen ones like this in various colors at Target. 
• Add a bamboo shower/bath mat. I love the bamboo look for my shower. It always makes me feel as though I’m stepping into a sauna whenever I take a shower. It also feels so much better stepping on this mat than it does the shower floor. I found this at my local Walgreens for about $20 about a year ago. Unfortunately, I haven’t seen it there, but you can find one similar from Fruugo here.
• Add a side table with spa-like things. On my side table, I like to add magazines, bath salt, a candle, bubble bath, and other spa essentials. This sits just below my rug, and house shoes which makes for a spa vibe. 
• Be mindful of the colors you use. I personally love whites and greys. My towels and rugs are all white, and my robe is gray. This helps me to feel as though I’m at the spa. Other earthy colors like clay, green, or camel brown can also be used to help bring out the spa in your bathroom. 

 
Outside of these tips, there are plenty of other ways to bring the spa to you. You can add a humidifier, a small speaker that plays music, décor that makes you feel as though your on vacation, faux plants, etc. Be creative, but don’t go crazy. This is meant to help you feel more and more relaxed in your home. 

Here's a few photos of my bathroom. Hope you enjoy!

XoXo, 
Tierra

​Mother’s Day is one of the biggest holidays celebrated throughout the year. In 2019, we consumers spent $25 billion (National Retail Federation nrf.com) on all the wonderful moms. I can’t help but wonder how many moms – especially new moms - will have to be celebrated on a ‘lesser’ scale due to the pandemic. I was talking to a new mom recently, and she mentioned feeling a bit slighted because of Corona and all the stay at home orders. With everything going on, she can’t go out to REALLY celebrate, and the chances of receiving a nice gift is pretty slim to none  given retail stores being closed, longer than usual shipping delays, and the only open stores being Walmart & Target (don't get me wrong I love Tar-jay lol, but still). Having this conversation is what tugged on my heart, and why I’m writing you today. I want all the moms to know that no matter what is going on in the world, YOU are worthy of being celebrated. Being a mother is by far one of the hardest roles I’ve ever had. My hope is that you can feel just as special while maintaining your safety at home. Here’s a list of ways you can still have an amazing Mother’s Day – whether it’s for yourself or planning for your own mom.

• Purchase Mom’s favorites. Lucky for us, we can still purchase flowers, cards, chocolates, and other sweet nothings that our moms enjoy. This will show her that you are thinking of her and her likes and will better help her to cope during quarantine by being surrounded by the things she loves.

• Plan an intimate dinner. Unfortunately, not all the siblings may be able to attend a dinner for mom, but you can also still prepare it with just you and mom and invite the siblings virtually. Start by preparing the food at home or requesting a local chef to cook the meal and bring it with you. I especially love this idea if you have an outdoor seating area or sunroom.

• Purchase an expensive gift for the future. At some point, this too shall pass, and we will be able to get back to enjoying our luxuries. Purchase that spa gift card or a plane ticket for a trip she’s always wanted to go to. This will give mom something to look forward to and continue pushing through quarantine when times get tough.

• All Mom some peace and quiet. Sometimes time is one of our biggest luxuries. I remember when I was a new mom, and even now, I just wanted to be able to be alone for a couple hours so that I could read in peace, catch up on a tv show, take a nap or heck take a shower. If the mom you know is overworked, and often stressed, this could be one of the best gifts that you can give to her. Take the kids on a walk/outdoors or even help keep them entertained with coloring, games, movies, etc. for a couple hours.

For most of us, it doesn’t take much. I can bet that every mom’s needs can fit into one of these. Last year, I received roses, cards, a '10 Things I Love About My Mom' book & enjoyed breakfast in bed. I look forward to this Mother's Day, and I hope that you’re able to make it just as special. Feel free to let us know what you’re planning or come back and let us know how special it was for you or a mom you know.

XoXo,
Tierra

​For many of us, it’s only been a little over a week, since being told we needed to quarantine at home, and not leave the house unless it’s for essential things – like getting groceries, gas, medicine, etc. I think it’s safe to say that this situation went from ‘0 to 100 real quick’ - meaning things escalated way too fast. And with less than 2 weeks in, and the possibility of months of social distancing,
​I wanted to give you guys 7 tips on how to maintain your sanity.

1. Wake up with a grateful heart. This may sound cliché but it truly helps any situation feel bearable when you can think of things to be grateful for or think about how someone out there may have it much worse than what you do. A few things I’m grateful for right now are my family’s health, my job & business, and being able to spend more time with my family at home
2. Figure out a routine that works for you. Many times, when there’s no routine, there’s no structure, and when there’s no structure, we tend to not put much effort into our days and end up feeling like something’s missing because we weren’t productive, therefore not reaching our purpose. For me, this looks like waking up, reading my devotions, making breakfast, getting the kids started with homeschooling, 9-5 work, spend time with kids, business work, and the list goes on. And within some of those areas, I may write specific tasks on things I want to get done, so that I can really ensure each day, I’m doing something to reach my big-picture goals. Everyone is different. If you’re more of a planner like myself, try this approach. If you’re more of a “go with the flow” type of person then you can be less detailed, but at least have a general idea of what all you want to get done in the day.
3. Make time for self-care. You guys know I am really big on this. We can’t let our self-care go downhill just because we’re stuck at home. You can still take advantage of massages if you have a spouse or kids at home. You can give yourself a mani-pedi at home – if it’s been a while, watch a Youtube video on how to give yourself one. I watched several when I wanted to start spending less money at the nail shop. You can make your own treats at home also. One of my favorite desserts is Applebees Blue Ribbon Brownie. Although they’re still open, I’ve been learning to make my own brownies, and top it off with ice cream at home.
4. Limit what you watch, read, and listen to. Many of us find ourselves becoming obsessed with what’s happening in the news. We watch it for hours and hours. While it’s important to understand what’s going on in the world, it’s not okay to watch so much that you find yourself having greater anxiety over the problems. If you know that you’re the type of person who can easily be effected by what’s going on limit what you watch or be sure to also include some shows that can uplift your spirits again – comedy, action, and romcom movies tend to help me.
5. Do your part – whatever that may be. Currently, when it comes to COVID-19, many of us can do our part by staying at home. If I could put it simply, It’s a lot easier to stay sane when you’re healthy.
6. Stay in contact with those friends & family who you enjoy being around. I’ve seen many doing virtual small groups through church, happy hours, and parties. This is a great way to still feel connected to those who help keep you sane.
7. The last and most important tip on maintaining your peace is to talk to Jesus, read, and study His word. He is literally known as the Prince of Peace. So, why not go to Him daily in order to maintain your sanity. Depending on where you are in your walk with Christ, this may or may not come natural to you. But really try to do this – Real peace and joy comes from having a relationship with Him. The things mentioned above work, but are temporary fixes or will still leave you feeling anxious if you don’t have Him in your heart.

I truly hope everyone stays sane in the midst of everything happening.

Xoxo,
Tierra

Hey guys!

As of February 19th, I officially hit 3 months of being in business. Whew, it has been such an emotional journey so far. The word I would use to describe the first month is crazy. There was a lot of hype and support. Plus it helped that timing was on my side- Christmas was a little over a month away. Everyone was in the holiday spirit, and my candles made the perfect gift. I ended up selling out of my first collection! This didn't happen without some bumps however. I've learned quite a bit so far (probably enough to write a book) but I wanted to discuss some of the areas that I learned the most in.

• Shipping
  • ​​I learned that this is one of the most costly business expenses all around. Ordering supplies for my business has cost me over $30 in some cases or even shipping out orders to customers can range anywhere from $8-$18. 
  • I learned that the post office is not all the same. In  some cities they gravely mishandled my candles even though the 'fragile' stamp was clearly displayed.
  • Make sure that I have enough boxes up front to ship my candles in. After about 5 shipping orders, I wasn't able to find enough of the boxes that were perfect for my candle's size.
• Hearing Empty Promises  
  • I  learned that some are good at offering empty promises.  Sometimes if feels as though your peers can be your "worst enemies" so to speak. Some say they will support, and don't. Many will also avoid sharing your posts, but are quick to post celebrities or others whom they've never met. Thankfully, I have a handful that I can really count on when it comes to their support and sharing my business for you (you guys know who you are!) Over time, I'm learning to not get offended, and consider it a part of doing business. 
• Lowering My Prices
  • I also learned that pricing has little to do with support. Even when prices are offered under $10 with free shipping, that did not drive sales. This in part could be due to timing also. Retail tends to be slower following Christmas months, and doesn't usually pick up until closer to tax season. However, I don't say this to discourage you from having sales. Ultimately, if you want to have a sale, have one! I haven't found any success with the two that I've had, but I will definitely launch another one as my business grows since I personally love a good sale! Just don't lower your prices in hopes of getting people to purchase from you.  
  • Set goals, but don't focus too heavily on the numbers.Continue to do what you're supposed to do, and the sales will come. Each month, I set a sales goal. Some months I've exceeded that, and some I haven't. However when I add up what my goal was for the first few months, and what I've made in sales, collectively I've only missed my goal by $378 which isn't bad. I'm just thankful that each month I've been able to make enough sales to continue to pour back into the business while helping customers enjoy their homes with my candles. 

Despite these learning areas, I am still just as passionate and excited to continue in this journey. Building a business from scratch involves a lot of trials and errors, numerous hours and money invested, doubts, fears, tears,  frustrations and more. It is definitely a marathon mentality opposed to a sprint, and being patient through it all is a struggle!

I want to encourage those of you who are wanting to start a business or are in their first few months of starting, and are looking for someone who can share in the struggles of just starting out. There will be times when it feels like no one is rooting for you. There will be times when it feels like the sales won't come in. There will be times when you have to start completely over because the product didn't come out right. Just don't give up. 

You've got this!

For some, organization skills are like a foreign language. For others, it’s like second nature. I tend to find myself closer to the second nature side. There are areas in life that’d I’d like to think I’m pretty good at being organized in. When it comes to my finances, balancing the kids schedule, and planning out the meals for the week, I do pretty well.

But if I can be honest, I don’t have it all together. I sometimes struggle with organizing my paperwork and emails. I do well initially, but as I add more and more paperwork, it gets to be a bit much, and I let it pile up until I can “get to it later”.  And let’s not even talk about personal emails…Currently I’m showing 9,462 unread just in one account lol. Someone help me clear these out please!  

Now that we’ve gotten some of my struggles with being organized out of the way, let me give you some tips on the areas that I’ve mastered. 

My finances – 
There are several methods that I use in order to help me stay organized.

• Each month, I create a budget. I write down how much my bills are, how much cash I need to withdraw for my envelopes, and any miscellaneous expenses. Once the bill comes out of my account, I highlight it in green. 
• I keep a planner with a monthly view. This helps to give me another visual into my finances. Sometimes it’s easier to see things in as a picture view opposed to written. So I ensure my bills are written down there so that whenever I pay them I can check them off. 
• I mentioned withdrawing cash for envelopes. In order to hold myself accountable, I withdraw enough money to distribute across several envelopes. I like to use a groceries, household, gas/car, and self-care. Each pay period can vary depending on whether or not I need more or less of something, but I do try to keep the amount set each time. This has helped me tremendously because it keeps me from touching my checking account. And I live by the mantra that if I don’t have it in my envelopes, then I cannot get it (most of the time lol). 

Balancing the kid's schedules - 
Lucky for me, my kids are still fairly young, so their schedules aren’t too filled with activities. During the week, I mostly have to ensure I’m getting them to and from school on time.

• I also try to schedule in fun random things for us to do as a family throughout the week—like go to the park, library or see a movie. On the weekends, we have sports and church.
• If need be, I create a calendar with all of our activities listed on it as well just to have a better view. Knowing your schedule ahead of time can really help you to stay organized and figure out where your time and energy is going and how to shift things around if needed. 

Planning out the meals for the week - 
This has been a huge life saver for me during the week.

• Every Sunday, I decide what we will have for breakfast, lunch, and dinner Sunday-Saturday and create a menu. This helps me to make sure we’re getting in healthy meals. From that list, I can create the grocery list and go shopping after. Once I'm done with my shopping, I like to post the list on the refrigerator. By doing this, I’ve been able to stay within budget each time I go shopping. It also helps to eliminate those “What are we having for dinner?” questions. 

 
The key for me was figuring out the areas that I was most disorganized in and starting there. If you struggle with finances, balancing your scheduling, or just choosing your meals for the week, I encourage you to pick one and see how you can incorporate the suggestions into your life. And do what works for you. Feel free to tweak any of them to better fit your lifestyle.
 
Can’t wait to hear how you’re getting more organized in 2020!
 
XoXo 
MilanMonet Luxe

I write this blog to you guys from a heavy place. It’s been 2 days since the passing of one of the greatest professional basketball players of our time –Kobe Bryant and his beautiful daughter Gigi. His passing is affecting so many, even those who only knew OF him. As I write this, it’s also going on a year since my divorce, and I can’t help but think of the horrible moments that took place that day also. In light of these two situations, I wanted to help those who may be hurting because you’re grieving a loss. 
 
Often times, it’s hard to even process what just happened because we’re still in denial. We say things like “This can’t be real” “This can’t be happening” “I must be dreaming or in a nightmare” when in reality it is happening. This is what I like to think is the first stage of the grieving process. This taste of reality hits hard when there's physical evidence to confirm it. For example, I was no longer in denial when I had the papers in my hand signed by the judge.
 
Some of us may bypass the denial phase and go straight into shock. We still can’t believe that this has happened, and we’re just trying to wrap our heads around what happened in hopes of it making sense. I want you to know that it may never make sense, and at some point we have to come to terms that all of our questions may or may not get answered. 
 
After the shock wears off, we start to really feel the impact of the loss. In this phase, we can experience a series of emotions such as deep sadness. We find it hard to stop crying, and even when it feels like there are no more tears, we still bleed out more. It seems that no amount of comfort helps. We may also experience anger. We are mad with God, ourselves, or the “universe” for allowing this to happen. We get easily agitated or annoyed by the smallest of things because we’re angry and want those around us to feel that we are hurting. I’ve been here before. The best thing for me was to remove myself from those closest to me and take a break from all of the distractions so that I could sit in silence and calm down. 
 
After we’ve experienced the rollercoaster of feelings, we land at accepting the loss. And by accepting, I don’t mean being “OK” with it. Or that you’re all of a sudden “good.” By accepting the loss, I mean that we begin to understand that the loss is unfortunately out of our control. We accept that it happened. We accept that this will forever change our lives. 
 
The difficult thing about dealing with grief or difficult times is that there’s no magic formula, and everyone has their own way of healing through the pain. However, in moments like these I try to go to God. There’s a scripture found in Psalms 34:18 that says, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.” (NLT) 
 
Many of our spirits are crushed by Kobe, his daughter, and the other families who died along with him in the crash. I pray that as you recognize your grieving process, and learn to heal you too can leave a legacy as great as he did.